A tearing apart...

I heard on Saturday that my Pastor announced that he has divorced his wife and mother of three children after 21 years of marriage...
I am devastated, i screamed so hard, i could not believe my ears, Divorce ke??? As in the final dissolution of a marriage, the end...
Devastation quickly led way to anger and disgust...
These things have no business in the Church of God...
There is no mincing of words and while i have not been married so cannot grapple with whatever issues married people face, i expected a man of God to know better...

Just last week, this was the topic of discussion on a radio programme i listen to on my drive home from work...
I was astonished at the lax, lazy and selfish attitude people now have towards marriage...
If i am not happy why stay, blah blah blah...
Bullshit!!!
Again i am not one to judge but it has me thinking...
Where did my generation go wrong?
Why are we so quick to throw in the towel?
My mum was telling me tales from some marriages of family friends of ours, people we have known all our lives, the hardships they faced, all sorts...
from husbands who were viciously mean, spouses who cheated, all sorts...
Come close home and i know i grew up with my aunty calling my mum (Her elder sister)most mornings to tell of the latest problems her husband was doling out to her..
Even I as a child and young adult thought he was a demon...
They are still married...
He mellowed, Life taught him a lesson...

Another aunt of mine who sadly passed away recently had no kids for 8 years...
It was tough, her husband let her know everyday that she was not "useful"...
They had the kind of fights best seen in horror movies...
I was sure they should not have gotten married...
They eventually had a son and they settled in well into their marriage...
Even my own folks had their own issues...
Everywhere around me and if you look around you , you will have these tales...
so what can make a marriage of 21 years break up?

Oh and he announced that it is not infidelity issues (the only reason ever for divorce) and nobody should ask him questions...
This is where my annoyance and anger stems from?
I have gone to this church for over 15 years...
I paid my first tithe there, sowed my seeds, learnt to pray, discovered my purpose, spoke in tongues, from children's church to now adult Church...it was my spiritual home...
And now this house is crumbling and i shouldn't question why it is???
Incredulous...
I did not go to church yesterday, i just could not bring my self to...
Meanwhile i had gone to church a day after the announcement o...
Blissfully unaware...
Did church feel any differently? No...
Did i get blessed by the service? Yes...
Do i believe he still is a man of God...Indeed...
Yet i am back pedaling.... albeit prayerfully
For if a man cannot keep his house together, i do not know how he intends to keep the house of his spiritual children...

My family is in shock...astounded...
My sister puts things quite nicely in retrospect...
The Devil has over 2000 years experience in pulling people down...making mincemeat out of man...steering people away from God's plan...
We must be more on guard, more prayerful...
These are sad times...
God help us all...